My mother in law is doing…well. Considering.
Basically, she was in the hospital, they found all of her cancer and sent her home and told her to come back in a few days for radiation.
Then they called her and said “oh you don’t have insurance, don’t bother coming back”
No further conversation, no other numbers to call, NOTHING.
Are you KIDDING me with the fucked up healthcare system we have?!
Idk how that’s legal.
Her husband is Native. He sends any health bills to the tribe and the tribe pays it. They tell the hospital the hospital says Too Bad.
Idk how that’s not some sort of discrimination.
She was just sitting at home. Dying.
Finally FINALLY my sisters-in-law called an ambulance and took her to a different hospital.
The hospital said if they hadn’t 911’d her she’d have been dead by the next day.
I was waiting by the phone, crying in the bathroom at work, waiting to hear she had passed.
Her cancer was described as “racing up her spine and into her skull” she had one compressed disc a week ago and now had three. She had hypercalcemia and liver failure.
After two days of her wasting away at the hospital they said She’s going to die without treatment. But she’ll probably die with treatment. And she was unable to consent to treatment.
And then the next day she woke up.
And consented to treatment. And began IV chemo that day.
And she’s been doing AMAZING ever since.
They moved her to a transitional facility to do therapy and work to get back home safely. Her back is so FUCKED I have no idea how she can get out of bed or move or function.
They gave her 1-3 years…if she is strong enough to keep getting the chemo (and maybe radiation? Idk if the dr changed their mind or my sil’s misunderstood the dr)
1-3 is….something….idk? It’s fucking terrible if you think of someone who should have lived 20+ years longer. But it’s 1-3 years longer than we thought. It gives people a time to process, a time to grieve, a time to spend time and make a few more memories, hopefully introduce a few more grandbabies, etc.
I said something to my wife about who knows where they’ll be in 1-3 years and she snapped on me that “they’re not gonna cure cancer in 1-3 years” Right, but…even if it’s 3.5 or 4 or who knows years …that could mean seeing her oldest grand baby graduate high school. She has so much left to live.
I 100% support a persons right to consent to treatment, or to decline treatment. I hope however long she has is as comfortable as possible. And I’m so THANKFUL that she has been able to start treatment and perk up and speak to her kids and LIVE instead of having a sore back and being gone from this terrible cancer in a matter of a few weeks.